I have recently had the wonderful privilege of speaking at a women’s luncheon at my niece’s church. The entire week before I tried to prepare what I was going to say, what songs I was going to sing and what extra video I was going to play. I had it all planned out in my head but I really wanted something down on paper. I wanted it planned so I would have a comfortability factor. Well, it just would not come together the entire week. I finally was able to sit down on Friday night, the night before the event, and write out quite a few pages of “my life” and what I wanted to say. The theme was Love. I had decided not to sing a solo, instead I wanted everyone to join in praise and worship songs about how we love the Lord. I made a list of several that I thought everyone would know. I then began to pray over the list and ask God which ones He wanted me to include. He clearly directed me to three that I have always loved.
Also, there was a video that I felt led to share with the ladies. It was one I found some time last year. It is a video of a concert of David Phelps and the one song on the video that captured my attention was “That’s What Love Is”. This particular song spoke to my heart and at the time I was viewing the song for the first time, it brought me to tears. Mainly because it was talking about how you stick it out and hang in there in relationships no matter what. Well, I related to the song in various ways. Two of the ways was a belief of mine and that is that if you commit to a relationship you need to fully commit and work it out when problems come. However, on the other hand, if that relationship becomes abusive then loving yourself enough is to get free from the abuse. Both are what Love is… to me. I have lived in an abusive relationships and know the warning signs. I know now that I should have left many years before I did. So this song … “That’s What Love Is” struck a chord with me and my heart. I had to share it and the dual message I felt led to tell.
So… this video … the original You Tube video was not available any longer. I did find the cut of the video that someone had done. It was the song I wanted and it had been done with Spanish lyrics on it though. I really didn’t want the video with Spanish lyrics… I wanted the clean version so I did however, order the DVD from David’s website. I was in communication with one of the ladies at the organization and she sadly informed me that the DVD was not going to make it to me before Saturday due to ice and snow in the Northeast. UGH! She suggested I look around on the internet to see if I could locate one. I did and I found a DVD of the concert and just assumed that the song I was wanting was on this DVD. When it came in on Thursday, I quickly opened the package and popped it into my laptop and searched the DVD and lo and behold… THE SONG … THE ONE SONG I WANTED was not there!! Nope. It was the entire concert… but not the song I wanted.
I was at a standstill. With the original DVD not being able to be shipped and the one I had in my hand not having the song on it, I was so disappointed. It was at that moment that I realized that God may have had a very good reason to show the video with Spanish lyrics… so I succumbed to the idea. OK, God, have it Your way. I will play the video with the Spanish lyrics. Yes, I repeated the words that I have repeated many times in the last 4 years. OK, God, have it Your way! I cannot tell you how many times there have been in my recent past that when I quit trying so hard and accept God’s direction, it works. Funny how that happens, huh? Well, if I would just remember that every time.
Nonetheless, the Women’s Luncheon went off wonderfully! The ladies were most gracious and kind. The video went off wonderfully as well. I was able to explain the reason I wanted to share this song and expressed my concern about anyone staying in an abusive relationship. I do hope it fell on open hearts and ears. My passion is for abused and mistreated women. I can so relate to them and understand the confusion and anger they feel.
I would say that the speaking engagement was a success in that God led the way. I had written 8 pages to speak about and never once looked at the pages. I prayed God would show me the direction He wanted me to go in and He did – BIG TIME. He is such a good God. He loves us so much and wants us to be happy and fulfilled. That is His desire for us. He has a perfect plan for each of our lives.
11 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. 12 Then you will call upon Me and go and pray to Me, and I will listen to you. 13 And you will seek Me and find Me, when you search for Me with all your heart.
The years of pain and misery that I have experienced were such learning experiences for me. God’s Word promises us that …
28 And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.
Please do not miss the 2nd half of that scripture. All things work together for good…. Don’t stop there… “to those who are called according to His purpose” is key! You must learn and say the entire scripture. He will make all things work together for good if you are called according to His purpose. If you are a Christ follower… you are called. He can take the worst parts of your life and make them beautiful. He will restore … as He promised.
“So I will restore to you the years that the swarming locust has eaten,
The crawling locust,
The consuming locust,
And the chewing locust,[a]
My great army which I sent among you.
26 You shall eat in plenty and be satisfied,
And praise the name of the Lord your God,
Who has dealt wondrously with you;
And My people shall never be put to shame.
27 Then you shall know that I am in the midst of Israel:
I am the Lord your God
And there is no other.
My people shall never be put to shame.
God promises to restore and He will. He is waiting to hear from you today. After all, He calls you His beloved.
The Song – That’s What Love Is – David Phelps
The Video – That’s What Love Is – David Phelps (No More Night Concert, Birmingham, AL)